Appeal not to Strain your wards, please
Rather provide them a required support so that they unveil their own potential.
What do you
mean by gaining independence and equal opportunity? Does liberty, equality make
any sense for Indian youth? Did Indians really get them after independence?
Does an individual has freedom to vote with his/her own rational choice? Can
he/she decide what kind of life they would live? Has the equal opportunity made
people to up their own ideas into the market and make their own world or brand?
May be, these questions have been answered by western countries where the idea
of individualism has taken its present shape with its rooted anchored centuries
back. But, in India freedom for an individual seems to be that, a primordial
loyalty seeking power seats are available to everyone and they can compete to
obtain the same authority. To put into a context, a boy/girl will be considered
successful if and only if he/she gets into top institutions or worst crack
civil service exams. It is not wrong to expect from someone, but judging them
from the achievement of success in line with perched expectations is wrong.
Parents
force their children to study a particular course just because people today are
earning much better salaries with that background. A prominent example is
forcing every child to take up B. Tech or B.E so that he/she would get an
immediate job. A simple question, whether his child is willing to take
technical courses, does the child’s capabilities lie in that direction would
have kept him/her in a happy domain for the rest of the life. Ironically, that
is not being considered. If by mistake any one takes arts and did not get a
job, they would be chronically and perpetually forced to listen to the taunts
and retrospectively perceived mis – judgement by parents. Wrongly, every student
would be compared to the one who gets an immediate job or a perceived high
status (IAS) job. Next would be, Usne kuch nhi hone ke bavajud itna kar liya
h, tumne kya ukhada? Instead of that, parents could have just asked, what
do you want? How can we assist you? Hasn’t it occurred to any one that this behavior
would impose a high stress on psychology of students and would actually become
a chronic stress?
It is unimaginable
to read about what such chronic stress would lead to. Painstaking research has
revealed that it would lead youth into depression, anxiety disorders, bipolarity,
OCD (Obsessive compulsive disorders) and alas, suicides. Why would a parent
push their children into such unwanted psychic disorders? What wrong did they
do? Not acquiring a market demanded skill? It is damn not a wrong thing and
actually, it is immaterial if it is acquired or not because market is always
invisible and there are always skills within each individual to which there is inelastic
demand in the market. All that is required is a support from society to know
the potential of an individual. Wait, isn’t it what education is? May be even
education is running on the fault lines. Please stop this, don’t strain any one
to such an extent that their mental condition would cross a threshold. It would
be difficult to bring them back into the accepted normality of society. There is a beautiful life which sadly has its
connotation only with the beholder.

An individual must know what he/she is good at! I suggest you to write an article on IKIGAI, aa Japanese concept of finding what we are passionate about!
ReplyDeleteCan you tell me more about IKIGAI, or send me some details
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